In my last blog, I asked you to pay attention to your thoughts and especially your feelings as you interact with money and money matters. How you react emotionally has a huge impact on your ability to deal with money positively and create the type of calm, confident interaction with money and financial matters that I know you would like to have.
I recently had the pleasure of speaking to a group of sorority women at Georgia Tech. I always talk to students about their money story and how important it is for them to understand their money past so that they can create the kind of money future that they want to have. After the presentation, one of the women came up to me and said, “This is just what I needed to hear. I hate dealing with money and I guess I need to change that attitude!” Indeed! When you hear someone say that, it is so clear that the energy being put out into the world is not likely to attract money and is not portraying a confident, empowered person! It is just so much harder to see that when the person doing the talking is you!
If you think about why she, or any of us, hates to deal with money, it’s probably because:
- We don’t feel competent to make good decisions about our money, or
- We don’t want to face up to our money situation, or
- It brings up emotions that we just don’t want to feel (shame, fear, anxiety, conflict).
The cure for any of those things is action! Taking action is what moves us from incompetence to competence; it is what changes our money situation, and it is what can sweep away negative emotions by creating the positive association of action, progress, and growth. And action begins with a new attitude – “I just don’t know how” can become “I can’t wait to learn how!” “I’m broke” can become “I’ve got a plan to move to prosperity and debt freedom!” Fear, shame, anxiety and conflict can be converted to empowerment, pride, confidence, and serenity by learning from past mistakes, letting them go, and creating a plan to put in place new habits that move you toward financial peace of mind.
This week look at the ways that you may be “hating money,” avoiding financial topics, and swirling in emotion and see how you can take action to change your thoughts and create a new attitude toward your money. Pinpoint which of those areas applies to you and then get going on that attitude and dive into action.
Patti LaBelle rocked it when she sang:
I’m feelin’ good from my head to my shoes
Know where I’m goin’ and I know what to do
I tidied it up my point of view
I got a new attitude
Get your new money attitude, pick out your empowerment anthem, and start rocking your money story.
To your financial success!