As I was working out the other day, I honed in on something that I see every time I’m at the gym, but never really paid it much attention.
No Critics! You Belong! Obviously this gym is promoting that everyone should feel good about joining in as a member and being a part of their wellness center. But as I thought about this, the catchphrase ran deeper for me. We live in a world where people are judged by how they look, what they say, how they act, speak, eat, etc. The list is never ending. And who are people being judged by? Strangers, peers, family members, friends, co-workers… and if you are a pet owner, your pet probably gives you the side – eye too, on occasion.
One of the things that we all have in common is that as human being none of us is without fault. So why don’t we think about this BEFORE we judge other people? Are we as critical of ourselves as we are of others? Or, do we give ourselves permission to justify our prejudices and inaccurate assumptions we create about people?
When a child first comes into the world, they are precious, tiny and Judgment Free! They respond well to physical touch such as hugs, kisses and snuggles. However, as they continue to develop they are molded and influenced by the people who are raising them and they become more like US – the judgers.
Are you a judger? The judgers are the people who feel righteous enough to throw stones even when they live a glass house. The judgers are the people who become hypocritical and forget that they are not perfect. And lastly, the judgers are the ones who formulate their opinions before they have all of the facts.
So, the next time you are looking at yourself in the mirror, pay attention to who is staring right back at you. Is it a CRITIC or a complimenter? Is it an OSTRACIZER or an energizer? Are you creating a JUDGEMENT FREE ZONE or a zone that is filled with judgement? If your answer is yes to any of the first options in each question, then STOP and take another look in the mirror. Remember, everyone has a desire to belong — just like you do !