Not my circus, Not my monkeys!

It’s okay to know what you DON’T WANT. However, it’s also important to intentionally shift your thinking to what you DO WANT because believe it or not, the thoughts and words that we choose to express ourselves will gradually shape the core of our identity and destiny.

This can be very powerful when you think about how negative words can hurt you, but positive words never will.   Your words may not be the cause all of your problems, but they can cause a lot of them and they should be given a good deal of consideration when we are looking for answers to the problems we encounter in life.

Today, really think about challenging yourself. Every time you want to say or think something negative, try replacing those thoughts and words with positive alternatives.  Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we truly don’t want to be in and we wonder what we did to get ourselves into that predicament.  Often times,  we know the end result will not be a positive one even before the situation plays out.  But, we get engaged anyway and end up kicking ourselves later for when everything inside of us is telling us to move in the opposite direction.

So, this brings me to how I came up with the title of this blog. The title is a Polish Proverb.  Think about this: The next time you feel yourself being pulled into other people’s drama that may  include being a part of  negative relationships, unflattering conversations or anything that is not of good will for you personally, I want you to repeat these words: “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”  It may sound a little crazy (and even bring you a giggle or two) but the goal is for you to make the mind shift you need when you know you need to go in a new direction but are not quite sure how.   Repeat, repeat, repeat!  “Not my circus, not my monkeys!”  Now, go forth and be the woman you were created to be!

A New Attitude

In my last blog, I asked you to pay attention to your thoughts and especially your feelings as you interact with money and money matters. How you react emotionally has a huge impact on your ability to deal with money positively and create the type of calm, confident interaction with money and financial matters that I know you would like to have.

I recently had the pleasure of speaking to a group of sorority women at Georgia Tech. I always talk to students about their money story and how important it is for them to understand their money past so that they can create the kind of money future that they want to have. After the presentation, one of the women came up to me and said, “This is just what I needed to hear. I hate dealing with money and I guess I need to change that attitude!” Indeed!  When you hear someone say that, it is so clear that the energy being put out into the world is not likely to attract money and is not portraying a confident, empowered person! It is just so much harder to see that when the person doing the talking is you!

If you think about why she, or any of us, hates to deal with money, it’s probably because:

  • We don’t feel competent to make good decisions about our money, or
  • We don’t want to face up to our money situation, or
  • It brings up emotions that we just don’t want to feel (shame, fear, anxiety, conflict).

The cure for any of those things is action! Taking action is what moves us from incompetence to competence; it is what changes our money situation, and it is what can sweep away negative emotions by creating the positive association of action, progress, and growth. And action begins with a new attitude – “I just don’t know how” can become “I can’t wait to learn how!” “I’m broke” can become “I’ve got a plan to move to prosperity and debt freedom!” Fear, shame, anxiety and conflict can be converted to empowerment, pride, confidence, and serenity by learning from past mistakes, letting them go, and creating a plan to put in place new habits that move you toward financial peace of mind.

This week look at the ways that you may be “hating money,” avoiding financial topics, and swirling in emotion and see how you can take action to change your thoughts and create a new attitude toward your money. Pinpoint which of those areas applies to you and then get going on that attitude and dive into action.

Patti LaBelle rocked it when she sang:

I’m feelin’ good from my head to my shoes
Know where I’m goin’ and I know what to do
I tidied it up my point of view
I got a new attitude

Get your new money attitude, pick out your empowerment anthem, and start rocking your money story.

To your financial success!